In our culture, families often discuss dowry (مهر) or property arrangements before marriage. How does this compare to an American prenuptial agreement, and what cultural misunderstandings should Iranian couples in the U.S. avoid?
The Mahr (مهر) and the American prenuptial agreement serve very different purposes, even though both deal with financial matters in marriage.
Purpose and Spirit
Mahr (مهر) is a symbol of respect and commitment; the prenuptial agreement limits financial exposure in divorce.
Voluntariness and Tone
Mahr (مهر) is initiated by the groom’s side; the prenuptial agreement by the wealthier or more cautious party.
Cultural Misunderstandings
Iranian families may see a prenuptial agreement as mistrust; American lawyers may see the absence of one as naivety.
Practical Advice
Couples should address both traditions openly, with transparency, translation, and timing.
The strength of a cross-border marriage lies not in uniformity but in understanding. Whether the gesture is called Mahr (مهر) or Prenuptial, it must come from mutual respect—not fear.
— Abbas Hadjian, Esq.
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